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Saturday, June 05, 2010

What Mariella Frostrup and Kristen Stewart meant when they used those words

A few months ago I heard a couple of young women in conversation on the Tube. "He looked liked he was going to rape me but then he turned out to be really sweet," one said to the other. That's been ringing in my head ever since. The entire sweep of human relations reduced to violence at one end and charm at the other. It's the same style that describes things as "really brilliant" or "a bit crap".

I was reminded of that conversation this week when the actress Kristen Stewart had to apologise for likening the experience of being hounded by photographers to "being raped". At the same time the broadcaster Mariella Frostrup had to withdraw her earlier comment about the producers of Radio Four's Today programme being "a bunch of misogynists".

Let's be kind about this and assume that she reached for the word "misogynist", which means a hater of women, when what she should have used was a term indicating the producers had some kind of bias against women. Since there isn't a word that does that she would have had to articulate the actual thought. Kristen Stewart would have been more accurate if she'd said that the targets of paparazzi often looked as if they've been harried or violated. But she didn't.

In our tone deaf public discourse "personalities" reach for explosive words when they want to minutely increase the drama of their often drab conversation. This isn't just because they think it's the only way they'll be heard. It isn't just linguistic imprecision. It also has a crude moral dimension. It's intended to swiftly reduce complex issues to good guys versus bad guys and to clearly associate them with the former group. In that sense it is, to use a popular portmanteau adjective, "uncool".

6 comments:

Rog said...

Awesome post Dave.

Huw said...

I think I can use the following phrase without being accused of hyperbole.

Spot on, David.

Lucas Hare said...

I was horrified to hear the term 'Facebook rape' coming out of the mouths of children in Outnumbered the other week. An ugly phrase, and utterly inaccurate to boot. In what possible way is hijacking someone's Facebook status in their absence akin to rape?

Andrew Holmes said...

The other day I was in agony over a stubbed toe but my wife knew I was in no way demeaning the pain she went through during childbirth. I was just using hyperbole to make my point.

Gerontius said...

Might this language also have something to do with the likelihood of being quoted/Tweeted? Reduce a thought to a direct, bold and provocative statement (in less than 140 characters) and you'll get wider circulation?

BLTP said...

I find the increased use of the term "a bit rapey" to both repellant and disturbing. It seems to be used randomly and by both sexes it very odd.